Talking to Your New Partner About Sexual History and STIs

June 25, 2023

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So, you’ve met someone new and you’re starting to get intimate. Things are going great, but there’s one thing you’re not sure how to bring up: your sexual history and STI status.

It’s completely normal to feel nervous about this conversation. After all, it’s not exactly the most romantic topic. But it’s important to have this talk before you start having sex, for the sake of both your health and your partner’s.

Here are a few tips for talking to your new partner about sexual history and STIs:

  • Choose the right time and place.Don’t try to have this conversation in the heat of the moment. Wait until you’re both relaxed and have some time to talk. A good place to start is over dinner or coffee.
  • Be honest and open.Don’t try to hide anything from your partner. They deserve to know your full sexual history, so they can make an informed decision about whether or not they want to have sex with you.
  • Be respectful.Remember that your partner may be feeling just as nervous as you are. Be respectful of their feelings and concerns.
  • Answer any questions your partner has.If your partner has any questions about your sexual history or STI status, be sure to answer them honestly and openly.
  • Get tested together.If you’re both comfortable with it, you can get tested for STIs This is a great way to show your partner that you’re committed to their health and safety.

Talking to your new partner about sexual history and STIs is an important step in building a healthy and trusting relationship. By following these tips, you can have this conversation in a way that’s comfortable for both of you.

Here are some additional tips for talking to your new partner about sexual history and STIs:

  • Start by asking your partner about their sexual history. This will help you get a sense of their comfort level with the topic and give you a chance to share your own experiences.
  • Be clear about what you’re looking for in a sexual relationship. If you’re only interested in casual sex, be upfront about that. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, let your partner know that too.
  • Be prepared to answer any questions your partner may have. If you’re not sure how to answer a question, don’t be afraid to say so. You can always do some research on your own and come back to the conversation later.

Remember that you’re not alone. Many people feel nervous about talking about sexual history and STIs. If you’re struggling to have this conversation, there are resources available to help you. You can talk to a trusted friend or family member, or you can seek professional help from a therapist or counselor.

Talking to your new partner about sexual history and STIs is an important step in protecting your health and the health of your partner. By following these tips, you can have this conversation in a way that’s comfortable for both of you.

 

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